Find your people. Find yourself.
Connect with other late-diagnosed, neurodivergent adults in our affirming, small-group programs. Come explore unmasking, neuro-queerness, gender identity, twice exceptional, and more.
YOU’RE SPECIAL AND UNIQUE. . . and you just wanna be normal!
Autistic loneliness is real.
Maybe you’ve spent your whole life being told you’re “different,” “too sensitive,” or “hard to connect with.” You’ve been masking, people-pleasing, and second-guessing yourself so long you can barely remember who you are.
Even with people you love it’s hard to relax. When you let your guard down, you get weird looks or "loving" jokes that still sting. And when you try to explain, you’re told you're too sensitive.
Sound familiar? You’re not alone.
THE COST OF MASKING
All those strategies to survive: perfectionism, masking, and people-pleasing can leave you feeling ghost-like.
The protective shell keeps you safe, but it also keeps you from being seen. Over time, loneliness becomes numbness... then hopelessness.
We NEED connection. But we’ve been bullied, gaslit, and infantilized so often we're afraid to even meet people.
Affinity groups give you space to connect without pressure to perform.
WHAT ARE AFFINITY GROUPS?
Affinity groups are small gatherings of neurodivergent adults with shared lived experience.
We create focused groups like:
Parents of ND kids navigating their own PDA traits
Late-diagnosed Autistic nonbinary folks
AuDHDers navigating career shifts
People who identify as (PDA) Pathological Demand Avoidant and burnout
Groups are limited to 10 or fewer participants and meet weekly for 8–12 weeks via Zoom. Everyone commits to the full series so that trust and connection can grow over time.
Each week includes:
A short video or article on a group-relevant topic (optional)
A 90-minute live Zoom call (no cameras or reading required)
Real talk, no advice, no fixing, just shared experience
Topics may include:
Unmasking
Internalized ableism
PDA in everyday life
Autistic inertia
Navigating gender, parenting, and identity
This is not group therapy, it's connection. A space to unmask without fear.
HOW IT WORKS
When we spend time with other late-identified AuDHDers, we realize we’re actually totally normal, even boring!
Couldn’t tell your left foot from your right until sixth grade?
Misused words or expressions in excruciatingly embarrassing moments you wish you could erase from the record of history?
Never understood why being a “boy” or “girl” was so important to other people?
Or clearly understood that your own gender identity or sexuality was different from what other people expected it to be?
Spent your therapy sessions trying to figure out how to say the right thing so your therapist would feel like they were doing a good job?
Kept dating someone because you couldn’t figure out how to break up?
Opened your suitcase to realize you’d packed 8 pairs of socks but no pants?
Affinity Groups:
Hear from others like you!
AFFINITY GROUPS CAN HELP YOU…
Come to know and understand yourself better
Meet others like you
Get a sense of what parts of your personality are related to your Autism or ADHD
Get a sense of what parts of yourself (if any) feel distinct and separate from your neurodivergence
Learn what life has been like for other late identified Autistic ADHDers
Locate yourself on the spectrum among others (Are you hypo or hyper sensitive? Are you low on empathy or a super empath? There are so many ways to be ND. . . )
faqs
Common questions about Affinity Groups
How many people are in a group?
We cap the groups at 12 people, to make sure it’s intimate enough to feel safe, but has enough diversity to give a mix of different experiences.
Is this group therapy?
No! Affinity groups provide benefits by sharing our life experiences, but we are not trying to change or make you question EXACTLY who or how you are. . . We like you this way and are just here to share time and space with other people with similar brains.
What is the investment or commitment?
Financial investment: $100 per week, paid in full before the first meeting. So 8 week groups are $800, and 12 week groups are $1200. Special groups like the SSP or Self-Assessment groups may be more expensive ($150 per meeting) or have a separate charge for supplies or time required from us outside of group hours.
Time commitment: 90 minutes a week for 8 weeks, plus time to consider the topic during the week.
Emotional commitment: Be ready to experiment with unmasking in the group. Bring compassion and curiosity for yourself and everyone else. Open hearts and minds required.
What do we talk about?
There will be a brief (5-10 minute) presentation at the beginning of each meeting, based on some materials (brief videos, or articles) that we will have shared through email the week before. The conversation will start out based on that topic, but often veers into all kinds of other topics as well. We keep the discussion to our own lived experiences, and refrain from offering advice. We’re aiming for a judgement-free zone here.